I started Year 2013 on a bad note. I struggled the first few months but learned to moved on. I learned to accept that somethings and some people never really stays for good. And sometimes they leave taking something away from you and yet you learn to accept this too. I learned the hard way in 2013. The trust quotient and self-esteem has gotten into its super low, I made bad decisions at work, even snapped at few people. I was mean the whole time, hate and anger ruled my heart.
This made up my first half. But I got tired. The negativity sucked my whole being.
And I decided to let go.
Friends and family helped me through. Writing and this blog was my voice to all what’s inside me. It was hard to get back but since I know that no one will help me but myself and I realized that I owe it to friends and family especially the sisters who’ve been helping me through, I snapped back.
And so I look forward to 2014. With a little bit of fear to make it exciting, with some smile to brighten each day, with a whole lot of hope and faith to carry me through, with much gratitude for all things I now have and for the things that will be. With a little love to put sunshine on my days, maybe some good sunsets to appreciate life more.
So for 2014, I made my list. May your 2014 be as prosperous!
1. Choose well.
2. Forget the past but not its lessons. And sometimes, it’s okay to look back just to check how far you already have come.
3. Be kind to everyone. Be kinder to yourself.
4. Got this from one of my readings : Be okay with giving the gift of your absence to those who do not appreciate and respect your presence.
5. Read more. Write more!
6. Exercise more. Eat well.
7. Travel to new places – Bali, Batanes, Paris, South Korea, Coron.
8. Travel alone.
9. Peace of mind and of heart. Happiness in all its form. Love in all areas.
10. More blessings to share.
11. Be a blessing to others.
12. Be grateful. See the positives in the negatives.
13. Learn to forgive others. Learn to forgive oneself too.
14. Work hard. Invest smart.
15. Let go of the small stuff.
16. Believe that the universe is limitless. So ask for anything and everything.
17. Pray more. Meditate.
18. Coffee and friends are always a good combination. Give time for both.
19. Sometimes it’s okay to put up walls. To know who cares enough to knock them down.
20. Smile. For every reason. Especially when there’s no reason.
21. Appreciate the little and simple things.
22. Time, patience and faith. Believe in them.
23. Believe that God has a way of doing things – in His own way and and in His own time. Trust Him even if sometimes in your terms, it’s unfair and unreasonable.
24. Love oneself. You’ll never go wrong.
“It’s strange, I think, the way our lives turn out. Moments of circumstance, when later combined with conscious decisions and actions and a boatload of hope, can eventually forge a future that seems predestined.
Yet experience has taught me that fate is sometimes cruel and that even a boatload of hope is sometimes not enough.”
My book for the week is David Levithan’s Lover’s Dictionary. Just like what the title suggests, it is a dictionary – of words alphabetized and well, the meaning of the words indicated. This is what’s unusual with this book. It gives a different “meaning” to a word. I love how Levithan played with the words and how he intertwine these with the progress of a love story or a relationship ( I think, as I’m still on letter D ).
My favorite word, after page 75 of 211 on my ebook is Contiguous. I love it. I love how California and Nevada are explained to be in love when the meaning as per Merriam- Webster is touching along a boundary or at a point ( see that’s unusual and makes it interesting!).
Surely this will keep me awake tonight!
Well, below is the whole meaning of the word. “
I felt silly for even mentioning it, but once I did, I knew I had to explain. “When I was a kid,” I said, “I had this puzzle with all fifty states on it — you know, the kind where you have to fit them all together. And one day I got it in my head that California and Nevada were in love. I told my mom, and she had no idea what I was talking about. I ran and got those two pieces and showed it to her — California and Nevada, completely in love. So a lot of the time when we’re like this” — my ankles against the backs of your ankles, my knees fitting into the backs of your knees, my thighs on the backs of your legs, my stomach against your back, my chin folding into your neck — “I can’t help but think about California and Nevada, and how we’re a lot like them. If someone were drawing us from above as a map, that’s what we’d look like; that’s how we are.”
For a moment, you were quiet. And then you nestled in and whispered, “Contiguous.” And I knew you understood.”
Excerpt From: Levithan, David. “The Lover’s Dictionary.”
“Love makes you want to be a better man. But maybe love, real love, also give you permission to just be the man you are.”
Gone Girl, Gillian Flynn
“Maybe we’ve lived a thousand lives before this and in each one of them, we’ve found each other. I know I’ve spent each life before this one searching for you – not someone like you, but you. For your soul and mine must always come together”.
The Notebook, Nicholas Sparks
There are many things that can keep you in a relationship,” I say. “Fear of being alone. Fear of disrupting the arrangement of your life. A decision to settle for something that’s okay, because you don’t know if you can get any better. Or maybe there’s the irrational belief that it will get better, even if you know he won’t change.”
From Every Day by David Levithan
Should love be the only reason to be in one?
And so I share my favorite lines.
“Gratitude is something you must have before you can receive, not something you simply do after something good has happened.
Through the act of being sincerely grateful for receiving your desire beforehand, you immediately form an image in your mind that you have it, you feel as though you have it, and you’re fulfilling your part. If you continue to hold to that image and feeling, you will magically receive your desire. You won’t know how you’ll receive it, and it is not your job to figure it out.
You must trust and know that when you’re grateful for what you want, what you want will be magically moved to you, because it is the law of the Universe.”
And yeah, I’ve been practicing being grateful to everything and anything as suggested in the book. I’ve thanked the sun, the weather, the blue sky, the light traffic, the morning radio show that always makes my morning, the newly brewed coffee at McDonald’s, the guard who always assist me when I park. I’ve also been thankful for the arms that I use to hold and reach things, for my legs that brings me to anywhere, for my eyes, my fingers, the blood that runs through me, the heart, and everything that makes me. Of course, I am always grateful for the parents, friends, heck, even my enemies. Not to mention the many clothes on my closet and the various and colorful wedges, ballet flats and stilettos I wear. The job and the salary that goes with it are also included on the list to be thankful for. And the list goes on. Because thanking everything I have right now will help me achieve everything I still desire.
One might ask how? Experts call it The Law of Attraction. This law governs all the energy in the universe and teaches that “like attracts like”. And since our feelings and thoughts are made up of energy ( yes it is!), whatever we think, whatever we feel, we attract it. Simply put, our thoughts becomes things. Remember the famous quote, ” what your mind can conceive, your body can achieve”?. Well, Napoleon Hill surely knows this law! And we don’t have to be quantum physicist or a genius to understand this. When we are already thankful for what is present, we attract more of these. And this law applies every time to anyone. No exception! Amazing right?
As they say, we have 86,400 seconds a day, its no harm to allot a second or two to be grateful and besides it doesn’t cost anything anyway. And if this paves way to everything we desire, why not?
So beginning today, from the moment you wake up, when the feet reaches the floor, say thank you. To everything you have. To the one thing you want most.
Feel the power! Believe in the magic!
When fleeting moments of sadness get in the way of trying too much to be okay on a Tuesday mid-morning that even the mantra I choose every time I go to this black pit doesn’t work, I force a smile and find things/quotes or real-life stories that brings me back to believing that love is out there, that it is possible to find it, that it is worthy to wait for it.
From the book Tiny Beautiful Things by Cheryl Strayed.
“I can’t say when you’ll get love or how you’ll find it or even promise you that you will. I can only say you are worthy of it and that it’s never too much to ask for it and that it’s not crazy to fear you’ll never have it again, even though your fears are probably wrong. Love is our essential nutrient. Without it, life has little meaning. It’s the best thing we have to give and the most valuable thing we receive. It’s worthy of the entire hullabaloo.”
And in a snap, i get back.
When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project, all of your thoughts break their bonds: your mind transcends limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction and you find yourself in a new, great and wonderful world, Dormant forces, faculties and talents become alive and you discover yourself to be a greater person than you ever dreamed yourself to be. Patanjali
I am aiming to say this to myself, er, to imbibe this until every fiber of my being breathes it. These powerful words I got from the book The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari by Robin S. Sharma. The book suggests doing this every morning before facing the noise and eccentricities of the world.
I am halfway finishing the book and I am loving every pages of it. There’s so much thruth and wisdom in it. Some I already knew and some I never thought are just important and there are some that are just there but needs to like ” hit it in your face” to be able to slowly realize while my head keeps on nodding and uttering “yeah yeah”.
For 21 days, i committed to uttering this wonderful words ( of course, with the clear picture of what i want – my vision board), and just maybe, this thought will turn into something… something that will surprise me and will make me smile. ; )